How to Avoid The Law of Attraction Easy Sell to Engage the Real Work of Manifestation

Have you caught wind of the idea  “if you want it and expect it, it will be yours very soon!” ?

I have, and honestly, Ugh. Attracting your desires is just not as simple as those words make it seem. Soooo many people are walking around with unresolved trauma in their bodies and it subconsciously affects the way they move through the world, often blocking them from receiving what they want! That’s why I’ve committed my career to being a Certified Life Coach. To help break down these blocks, break through the best opportunities that suit YOU, and break into the life that loves you back!

I’ve been thinking a lot about manifestation and the law of attraction recently. The two big things I want everyone to know are:

• Most manifestation teachings, including the law of attraction, are oversimplified and limited, which sets you up for spiritually/intellectually bypassing the real work needed to clear your trauma, open yourself to receive, and believe you can sustain your best life.

• Manifestation works, but on a much deeper level and across more facets of your being than just within your conscious mind. All parts of your system– mind, body, and soul/spirit– must be deeply engaged for this work to be successful. 

Manifestation teachings are vastly oversimplified. 

The basic idea that many life coaches want you to believe is that thinking the right thoughts has the power to change your life. This is effectively incorrect in practice though because it barely hints at the actual truth. The truth is that our intellectual minds are small potatoes when in competition with our emotions, somatic functioning, subconscious material, and learned survival mechanisms. We are functioning from an energy that is so much more than just our conscious thought mind. 

If you are carrying trauma and outdated survival strategies in your psyche and body, choosing to consciously think that you are healthy, wealthy, and self-loving will not shift your life. 

On the other hand, when you tend to your psychic and emotional wounds and shift your survival strategies, your whole being becomes aligned with your divinity and desires and you can achieve almost anything. We attract what we attune our bodies to through the rawest somatic work. 

It’s like our cells must believe those thoughts too. 

Why are the teachings that preach “think and it shall be” so oversimplified and limited? One reason I think is because unscrupulous, savvy marketers and influencers target people who are desperate for some relief. To put it simply– there is money in the “easy” sell. Simplicity is promised and transformation is packaged as a one-stop-shop! That promise is very seductive for those who are overwhelmed and struggling. People become convinced to spend their money to learn how to “do it right.” These so-called experts use shame and vulnerability to convince people to buy what they’re selling. People want clean and unattached, but healing is not clean or a separate entity. It’s visceral, ugly, and nearly impossible at times. 

It’s much tougher to follow the true and honest rubric that promises, “Hey, this is going to be fucking challenging, come join us.”

The truth is that many people do not want to discuss trauma and oppression. They prefer to avoid it because it’s not pretty to talk about it. They don’t want to make people uncomfortable by bringing up difficult subjects and experiences. Truthfully, they may be unaware about the possibility that this avoidance is an outdated survival strategy designed to keep them “safe.” This would have them believe that if they allow themselves to align with the weightiness of certain emotions they would be creating a scenario where they will be contributing to the world's lower vibration, therefore impeding the world's healing. This is a sign of an emotionally immature ego who has not yet grown into a psychologically flexible human being. It’s a number one sign of bypassing. In these circumstances, there is some trauma that needs to be acknowledged and healed.

Other “teachers” or “gurus/influential peeps” in this area simply don’t know any better. They’re already well-off and privileged and don’t have the experience and perspective to understand people who are really struggling. These people are kind and well-intentioned, but what they are offering is a pale imitation of the real thing.

Finally, I believe that oversimplified manifestation teachings go hand in hand with cultural ideas of independence and self-sufficiency, like “pull yourself up by the bootstraps.” These ideas ignore the larger context of personal and collective trauma and oppression. They sound self-evident and empowering at first, but when you scratch the surface, you quickly reveal that they’re just victim-blaming nonsense.

Your trauma is not your fault AND it can be healed. It won’t be simple. It won’t be easy. It can be done. I, and other Friendly Witnesses in your life, are here to walk with you through the real work required to manifest the life you desire. 

Love,